Healing Resources for Affairs

These information resources are especially helpful in the first stage of healing Atonement. Use these tools carefully- you may be relieved you are not the only one or become overwhelmed by the reading. Use deep breathing, meditation or other ways to manage stress during this trama.

# 1 Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Regaining Your Sanity by Shirley Glass The Shirley Glass website also has articles. Best book for understanding all aspects of affairs/infidelity. Well balanced for everyone involved in an affair.  

Sleep and the Brian by Dr. Mike Lara. To access go to Drmikelara.com under Presentation Slides, natural remedies/behavioral changes are at the end of the slides. Usually right after discovering/revealing infidelity people don't eat or sleep well. if insomnia countinues check out these natural ways to sleep.

Tell Me No Lies. Ellen Bader and Paul Peterson. Explains reasons for lying in marriages and at different stages of marriage. This is not necessarily the first book to read but benefical to know about lies of commission and lies of omission. Lies of omission happen when a question is asked and the betrayer limits the answer to the specific question. "Where you with her in the store? No." (He was with her in the parking lot of the store). The Couples Institute has couple information tools along with services such as seminars and therapy in Menlo Park, California.

Faithful and True.com Pornography information for both husband and wife, seminars, groups and Intensives, Christian orientation.

Gentlepathmeadows. owned by Dr. Patrick J. Carnes. Dr. Carnes is the expert in the field of pornography and is a nationally known speaker on sex addiction and recovery issues. YouTubes, books, and other resources.

All these resources can be part of a process that brings you closer, helps you decide if you want to leave and gives clarity about choices along the way. Let me know if I can be of help. I do this work without judgment and I see amazing, healthy growth occur.